We've been dating less than a year and so far this has happened twice. Somehow an argument will turn into him yelling and cursing at me and I find myself cringing away from him. His behavior is scary at the time, but later it's fine and he apologizes and I wonder if I've made too big a deal about it. He's never even come close to hitting me or anything, but I can see him shaking with anger, and that makes me wonder if he really can keep his anger under control. I really need help on this one. Any advice? Please?
He needs some anger management therapy. I would not trust that he will be able to control his anger. You only been dating for less than a year and this happended twice already, this should happened only one that shows you he cannot control himself.
-Jacqueline 3/10
My red flags are going up!!! So I went and found the following info from Helpguide.org: http://is.gd/aauLm
SIGNS THAT YOU’RE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP
Your Inner Thoughts and Feelings Do you: feel afraid of your partner much of the time? avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner? feel that you can’t do anything right for your partner? believe that you deserve to be hurt or mistreated? wonder if you’re the one who is crazy? feel emotionally numb or helpless?
Your Partner’s Belittling Behavior Does he: humiliate or yell at you? criticize you and put you down?
Your Partner’s Violent Behavior or Threats Does he: have a bad and unpredictable temper?
Go to the website: http://is.gd/aauLm to read the rest. And REMEMBER. . . you cannot be the one to help with the changes. What's going on inside of him is DEEPLY rooted and must be dealt with by a professional. And I would, if it were me, ask myself what it is about myself that I would date someone who has this issue. What is it giving back to me? What is going on inside of me? etc.
Take care!
-lo 3/10
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